An Octagenarian Reflects
September Marist Reflection
An Octagenarian Reflects

Let Sr Marie Challacombe SM encourage and invite you to journey with hope and a renewed sense of call as an aging disciple. We are grateful for her sharing her personal story and insights.
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Start Your Meeting with Prayer
Then Someone Read Ephesians 4:1-6

I therefore, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of the vocation
to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience,
bearing with one another charitably, making every effort to maintain the unity of
the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you
were called to the one hope of your calling, one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one
God and Father of all, who is above all and through all and in all.

An Octagenarian Reflects
Aging gracefully with St Paul's wisdom By Sr Marie SM

On this seventeenth Sunday of Ordinary Time I sit pondering the word of Paul to the Ephesians 4:1 : I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to lead a life worthy of your vocation.

It is a fine sunny morning which would normally tempt me to go for a brisk walk, but alas, I realise that I too am a prisoner, not only of the Lord which is a welcome state, but of my own body, which is far more challenging! For while a little fall can happen to anybody without mishap, at a later stage of life the consequences can be more dire, since they may require surgery and prolonged recovery, which is what has happened to me. A nice brisk walk this morning is thus out of the question.

Hence my reflections as an ageing prisoner in the presence of the Lord.

Ageing? Well, yes, that is a fact. Unfortunately the ageing process is often seen in our society as an inevitable decline into senility and incompetence. Perhaps this is why some people try either to camouflage the obvious signs of ageing, or devise so-called 'bucket lists' in the hope of keeping decline and death at bay with constant and sometimes costly activity.

But inevitable senility as such is far from being a universal truth, as we all know. Beautiful examples of active centenarians who are still interested in life abound, as well as many older persons who suffer incapacitating illnesses with great fortitude and patience, even humour, and gratitude for those who care for them.

My recent experience in hospital provided me with a great example of the resilience and competence of older people. In my ward there was a 94 year-old woman in constant pain, but invariably positive and gracious, and concerned about her neighbour. This person was 91, fractious and confused for a day or two, it is true, but still very aware of her circumstances. The fourth elderly 'inmate' was a strong, kindly and independent woman who was longing to return to her little council unit and get on with her life. At 84 I was the youngest woman there, soon on my feet and ready to be discharged, but - temporarily shackled to an appliance for assistance and in need of immediate further care.

These musings led me to consider the challenge in the rest of Paul's sentence: I implore you to lead a life worthy of your vocation. Am I worthy of my vocation? After all our church has always insisted on our inherent unworthiness!

Without going into an historical explanation of why this came about, I recall the declaration of the Second Vatican Council which, inspired by the Spirit, stated unequivocally that we are all called to holiness. That is our vocation. And why? Because God is love and God cannot create what is not inherently lovable and good, and therefore capable of holiness. Worthiness, as such, has nothing to do with it. What Paul seems to be saying is: Accept your vocation of holiness, stand up and live it to the full, and he tells us how to do that: Bear with one another charitably, in complete selflessness, gentleness and patience.

These gifts are surely on display in all those around me, but I am nevertheless challenged to forget my 'unworthiness', to concentrate on, and live in God's infinite love for me, for others, and for all of creation. That is to put on the mind of Christ who came to reveal the Father's love, not just for some, but for all.

As we grow older we hope that with hindsight and experience will come wisdom and serenity. High ideals, indeed! But not just for those we consider to be saints, beyond our reach. Such gifts are the prerogative of every child of God, already conferred upon us by our loving Creator. True fullness of life is attained by coming to see ourselves and all others with the eyes of God and rejoicing in what we see of God's goodness in them. Gratitude for the gift of life and such abundant love should be, can be, our hallmark.

If, as we age, we find ourselves imprisoned in our bodies, let us remember that we are really being granted the wonderful privilege of having time to reflect, to look around us and beyond our personal aches and pains, to see the face of Christ in others and to respond with warmth and gentleness, recognising their need as something that is often greater than our own. Our infirmities will then no longer imprison us and we will live the true freedom of the children of God.

Thank you, Saint Paul. You prayed that God would remove the thorn from your side and God simply replied: My grace is sufficient for you. May it be sufficient for me too, and for you.

Discussion Starters to Help Your Reflection
Please use these Questions as a Guide

1. Silently re-read the Scripture: what stands out for you.

2. Have you ever thought of your body as a prison?

3. Our primary vocation is to holiness. St Paul makes 'putting on the mind of Christ' practical. How does he describe true holiness? Do you agree?

4. Gratitude can be our hallmark as Christians. Gratitude and humility are deeply interconnected. Who do you know who lives with gratitude?

5. Share your own experience of illness, vulnerability or aging. How can we allow these life events to bring us closer to God?

6. What do you think is meant by the 'true freedom of the children of God?'

Pope Francis Prayer Intentions

Universal Intention: Young People in Africa

That young people in Africa may have access to education and work in their own countries.

Special Intention:

May the Holy Spirit grant us the grace of conversion and the interior anointing needed to express before these crimes of sexual abuse our compunction and our resolve courageously to combat them. Amen

Concluding Prayer

God of infinite love,
I want to respond generously to the Holy Spirit
as Mary did, within my own unique life.
I pray that like her, the Spirit of God guide me every day,
I want to be a bearer of mercy, life and hope.
I acknowledge how small I am,
So, I put all my trust in God and in Mary.
I ask God, through Mary, for the strength, courage and
patience to be faithful to whatever God asks of me.
Help me grow in holiness, bearing with others and with
my own frailties with gratitude and gentleness.
Mary full of grace, Pray for us. Amen