Then someone read: Wisdom 3:9
Those who trust in the Lord will understand truth, and the faithful will abide with God in love, because grace and mercy are upon God's holy ones, and the Lord watches over his elect.
Read the script
For your reflection this month
God Sees You November 2018
Bev McDonald MM
I know it's complicated, stressful, wonderful, exciting, tiring and sometimes quite overwhelming to be a mother of toddlers, young school age children and even teenagers. Today I'd like us to consider the people who are on the margins of mothering. The ones who feel different and who don't feel like they belong.
They are in every one of our communities and you may well have a friend, a family member, certainly someone in your play group, or your family group or your parish who fits this description. I have a poem to read which is called "I see you". I'd like us to reflect on it, hearing it as God talking to us.
l SEE YOU
I see you running your child to therapy, when other mums are off to football practice or ballet,
I see you slipping out of the conversation when your friends are all chiming on about their child's milestones and grades,
I see you constantly juggling appointments and meetings,
I see you sitting at your computer for hours, researching what you can do to help your child,
I see you cringe when you hear people complaining about what seems like petty, trivial things,
I see you spread thin, but still going the extra mile for your family, day after day,
I see you digging for depths of strength you never thought you had,
I see you showing appreciation to the teachers, therapists and medical professionals who serve your child, and support you,
I see you rising early in the morning to do it all again after another hectic night,
I see you hanging onto the end of your rope for dear life,
I know how invisible you feel, like no one notices any of it, but I want you to know I notice you.
I see you relentlessly pushing onwards, even when it seems impossible.
I see you keep choosing to do everything in your power to give your child everything you can, always.
What you're doing matters, it's worth it.
On those days where you wonder if you can do it one more minute, I want you to know I see you, and you are beautiful!
I want you to know you aren't alone, I want you to know love is what matters most, and you have that nailed!
And on those days you have breakthroughs, those times when the hard work pays off and success is yours to cherish, I see you then too, and I'm proud of you!
So whichever day today is - remember you're worthy, you're good, you're loved and cherished beyond your wildest imaginings.
I have entrusted one of my little ones in great need to you.
I see you, I know you, I love you. I am with you. Author unknown
Now some of those points perhaps all of us can relate to, some may only apply to people and mothers who have special needs in their family. And that can apply to an adult child with special needs who is without a job, still at home, in their thirties; all the dreams, all the milestones of marriages and twenty firsts and buying a first house that are never going to happen. There is an endless kind of grief that comes out of a deep profound loving for those people who have special needs in their families.
So, I'd like you to go through that poem again quietly as a group, maybe take it line by line and share as you go. Notice what might apply to you and how your heart responds. Notice also that God calls us to be attentive to these women in our midst, these mothers in our midst who need encouraging and loving and building up just like you and I do.
In a sense we can be the author of the poem for others around us. For mothers who need someone to encourage them.
We can also share that poem when it's appropriate to someone in that circumstance and we can also hear that poem as a gift to the heart of every mother and especially to me today, to you today; that whatever mothering is bringing into your life, this day, this month, this year, God sees you, God is with you and God is proud of you.
God bless, Bev
Share from these reflection starters:
Simply use these questions as a starter to guide your sharing.
1. What stands out most for you from the Scripture / Reflection?
2. Each person read a line from the poem (shaded area) and share/comment/discuss—what touches you—as you go through it together?
3.How does your parish, group or community support those
parenting someone with special needs?
4.How could you use the poem to reach out to someone who needs
encouraging, loving or building up as a parent?
Charter No. 8
A Christian mother reaches out to support and encourage all mothers and is open to receiving the same from others.
" I thank my God whenever I think of you … My prayer is that your love for each other may increase more and more …" Phil's 1:3-11
Concluding Prayer Time:
for each woman's needs and concerns
Then read the second part of the poem together from "What you are doing..." as if you are speaking it to each other as a letter from God.